SYMPTOM · PERIMENOPAUSE
Low libido
Less desire, or desire that takes longer to arrive: a drop in libido affects a good many women in perimenopause, often in silence.
Why it happens
Falling oestrogen and testosterone levels reduce sensitivity and can make sex less comfortable, especially if there's vaginal dryness. Tiredness, stress and the sleep problems of this stage also play a big part, sometimes more than the hormones themselves.
What tends to weigh most on desire
- Build-up of tiredness and lack of sleep.
- Stress and the mental load of daily life.
- Vaginal dryness, which makes sex less comfortable.
- Unspoken tension with your partner.
In the moment
- Take your time, without putting pressure on yourself about the outcome.
- Use a lubricant if discomfort is holding you back.
- Talk about how you feel rather than keeping it to yourself.
Day to day
- Set aside time alone with your partner, with no particular goal.
- Make sleep and rest a priority: they have a direct effect on desire.
- Move regularly, it helps circulation and overall energy.
Is low libido getting you down?
A healthcare professional can suggest solutions that suit you, hormonal or not, depending on what works best for you.
For information only. This does not replace a personalised medical assessment.
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Brain fog
You search for words, reread the same sentence twice, lose the thread mid-conversation. Nothing to worry about: your brain is simply running slower, with less glucose to fuel it as oestrogen levels fall.
Sleep problems
Asleep in ten minutes yesterday, wide awake at 3 a.m. today, for no reason. Progesterone, which helped you switch off at night, is in shorter supply, and deep sleep takes the hit straight away.
Anxiety
Stress that spikes over an email, a meeting, running ten minutes late. Oestrogen affects serotonin: when it yo-yos, everything feels heavier to carry than before.
Joint pain
Knees that creak as you stand up, hands that feel stiff in the morning. Cartilage loses its best anti-inflammatory ally as oestrogen falls, and you feel as if you are rusting up all over.
Hot flushes
A wave of heat rising from the chest to the face, lasting one to five minutes. Deprived of oestrogen, the thermoregulatory neurons in the hypothalamus narrow the thermal neutral zone: a few tenths of a degree are enough.
Palpitations
Your heart suddenly races, with no effort and no reason. Oestrogen also influences the nervous system that sets your heart rhythm. Alarming in the moment, rarely serious.
Mood swings
You laugh, and thirty seconds later you could cry or tell everyone where to go. Hormones rise and fall faster than before, and your mood follows, without warning.
Weight gain
Your tummy rounds out even though nothing on your plate has changed. Oestrogen redirects fat storage towards the abdomen, and your metabolism runs a little slower than before.
Vaginal dryness
A feeling of dryness, sometimes a little discomfort day to day. Tissues lose their natural moisture as oestrogen falls. It is a common symptom, and still too rarely talked about.
Irregular periods
One cycle shorter, another dragging on, a month skipped altogether. Ovulation becomes less regular as the ovaries slow down. It is often the very first sign of perimenopause.
Night sweats
Waking up drenched in the middle of the night, sheets to change, sleep cut short. It is the same hot flush as during the day, night-time edition, and it wakes you just as surely.
Pain during sex
Discomfort, sometimes real pain, during or after sex. Tissues thin as oestrogen falls, and what never used to be a problem can become sensitive.
Dry skin
Skin that feels tight, marks more easily and seems to have lost some of its bounce. Collagen declines with oestrogen, by up to 30% in the first few years after menopause.
Chronic fatigue
Tiredness that will not lift, even after a good night. Broken sleep, falling hormones: your body runs less efficiently, and you feel it from morning to night.
Hair loss
More hair in your brush, a parting that seems to be widening. Oestrogen used to extend its growth phase. Without it, the cycle shortens and each strand gets finer.